As a mum of two there are things I know now that I wished I had of known and done from the start. Of course there’s no right or wrong way to parent or do things, it’s each to their own and you will find your own way and routine but I thought I’d share some of my tips with you to make life a little easier with a baby.
Mum knows best. You sometimes get unwanted advice and it can be a bit annoying but just remember you’re mum, it’s your baby and you know your baby more than anybody else. Of course, listen to the advice, smile and nod but it doesn’t mean you have to follow the advice.
Every baby is different. Totally true. My two were and are completely different, what worked for Fletcher didn’t work for Eden. What works for some doesn’t for others. You’ll soon learn what works best for your little one.
Sleep or rest when you can. People who told me to sleep when baby sleeps really got on my nerves. All I could think about was if I did that then who would do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, when will I shower? That’s why I’ve put “when you can”. If you can’t or don’t want to sleep then at least allow yourself to rest, put your feet up and have a cuppa first before cooking, cleaning and everything else.
Invest in a slow cooker. Seriously, you won’t regret it. I’ve only recently invested in a slow cooker and my god, I wish I’d have done it when I had Fletcher. You don’t have to spend a fortune on one, mine was about £18 and it’s brilliant. I use it nearly every day as you can cook pretty much anything in there. Chuck everything in in the morning when you’ve got 10 minutes, turn it on and it’ll be ready by tea time. No more cooking.
Accept help. Ok, I’m rubbish at this myself, I don’t ask for help. I believe they’re my kids they’re my responsibility so I pretend I’m super mum but even super hero’s need to rest once in a while. This is something I’ve learned to just accept as my two have gotten older. Why I didn’t accept it sooner I’ll never know. If granny offers to take the baby for an hour or two then do it!
Believe in yourself, you can do this. Parenting comes with its ups and downs, you’re going to have days where you feel like you’re failing and quite simply feel like you can’t do it anymore. YOU CAN. Just breathe and you’ll get through it.
Don’t do anything while baby sleeps that you could do while baby is awake. If there are a few chores that can be done whilst baby is awake then leave them until then. It doesn’t matter, they can wait. Prioritise the important things.
Stock up on baby wipes. Chances are you’re probably going to get through a lot of wipes over the next few years, especially when the weaning process starts. You’ll be surprised at how many you get through, they become your best friend.
Enjoy it. Babies really do grow up quick. One minute you have a tiny newborn baby and the next you have a toddler and you wonder where the time has gone and where you’re tiny baby has gone. Cherish those little cuddles, those tiny soft hands to hold, those 1am cuddles even though you are completely exhausted. Take loads of photos and videos. Put together a memory box and save that first outfit to put in there, your scan photos, foot prints, hand prints, those firsts moments, first birthday cards. Make and keep all of those memories.
Do your best. There will be easy days and hard days. There will be days where you don’t enjoy parenthood and that’s ok as long as you are doing your best. Cry if you need too, it’s ok to have a minute to yourself. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, you’re doing an amazing job raising and caring for a tiny human. It’s not easy at all but it’s so amazing!